1. Single moms are the problem. Only 9 percent of low-income, urban moms have been single throughout their child’s first five years. Thirty-five percent were married to, or in a relationship with, the child’s father for that entire time.

2. Absent dads are the problem. Sixty percent of low-income dads see at least one of their children daily. Another 16 percent see their children weekly.

3. Black dads are the problem. Among men who don’t live with their children, black fathers are more likely than white or Hispanic dads to have a daily presence in their kids’ lives.

4. Poor people are lazy. In 2004, there was at least one adult with a job in 60 percent of families on food stamps that had both kids and a nondisabled, working-age adult.

5. If you’re not officially poor, you’re doing okay. The federal poverty line for a family of two parents and two children in 2012 was $23,283. Basic needs cost at least twice that in 615 of America’s cities and regions.

6. Go to college, get out of poverty. In 2012, about 1.1 million people who made less than $25,000 a year, worked full time, and were heads of household had a bachelor’s degree.

7. We’re winning the war on poverty. The number of households with children living on less than $2 a day per person has grown 160 percent since 1996, to 1.65 million families in 2011.

8. The days of old ladies eating cat food are over. The share of elderly single women living in extreme poverty jumped 31 percent from 2011 to 2012.

9. The homeless are drunk street people. One in 45 kids in the United States experiences homelessness each year. In New York City alone, 22,000 children are homeless.

10. Handouts are bankrupting us. In 2012, total welfare funding was 0.47 percent of the federal budget.

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A favorite term of endearment…drawled out slowly.

A favorite term of endearment…drawled out slowly.

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I’m sorry my life was so dark that even your tiny Christmas-light heart was a beacon. I’m sorry I was lost and tried to make you into a map."

-“Sorry Not Sorry” by Amanda Miska, Five Quarterly, Spring 2014

(my newest flash! This whole issue is awesome—go check it out!)

Gimme that shirt.

Gimme that shirt.

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I have a new flash, “Sorry Not Sorry,” in Five Quarterly’s Spring 2014 issue.


(I skipped a week by accident…a lot going on around here. I’m also behind on my Lent letters and lo and behold, it’s already Good Friday. Sigh. Story of my life.)

Feeling: thankful. busy. nostalgic.

Reading: started “Madeleine is Sleeping”, given to me by a dear friend. I am trying to read more “real” books and even made a Goodreads account. (Add me if you want!)

Writing: I finally finished a draft of a longer short story, but I haven’t looked at it since to begin revisions.

Listening to: Ray LaMontagne radio on Spotify (we are going to see him in June and I can’t wait for his new album in a week or so!)

Dreaming about: getting rid of the jackets for good.  planting/gardening. picnics and hikes.

Avoiding:  negative self-talk. dwelling on the past. worrying.

Trying to:  take some time away for myself, even an hour or two a week, to refresh/write/relax. 

Happy Easter weekend.



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You can do this! Read along with Jessica in her “Year of Misandry” book club challenge on lipstickparty magazine.